The trauma you’ve been through doesn’t have to write the rest of your story.
What if your partner never told you another lie... what if he was perfectly faithful from now on... would it heal your trauma? Would it untarnish the past and restore all that has been lost?
If only it were so simple...
In this journey-you-never-signed-up-for, you are your own governess. Your healing is not determined by the changes he makes (or doesn't make).
But how exactly do you move into vitality, freedom and balance after all you've been through?
You don't let it go to waste. You make it work for you. You come back from this in a way that amplify's your wisdom, intuition, honor and purpose.
In three days together, just you and me, we will:
- Identify the Cardinal Wounds that shape the lens through which you are currently viewing yourself, your partner, your intuition and your options
- Draw from old wounds you've successfully healed in order to construct a 3-month Resiliency Template that will turn the tide for you
- Ensure your plan is going to work by weaving in all the relationship roles you have (examples: wife, mother, employee, ministry leader, daughter, caregiver etc.)
- Make every trigger and painful memory count toward your healing by installing the knack and balance you need to surf the waves of trauma
- Identify the Zones of Impact betrayal has caused and make Reflexive Calibrating work for your benefit
- Nurture a profound connection to your own intuition
- Garner tools for brain and heart alignment in the midst of seemingly impossible dialectics
- Refresh your confidence that you have what you need for whole-hearted healing already inside of you - and get you boosted in your healing
It's a lot to do in three days, but with careful preparation, we can establish months of therapy gains.
GETTING STARTED
After I receive your application we will schedule a phone call to cover your questions and assess if this program is a good fit for your current support needs. If it's not, I will let you know right away and refer you to resources with other providers that may be beneficial for you.
To tailor-design each intensive, I get to know my client ahead of time through several intake forms and assessments that are completed before they travel to Michigan. This kind of prep allows us to dive right in to the pulse-point on our first day together - it sets us up to accomplish a lot in a little time.
Three days of intensive focus is not easy work and it's not for everyone.
Here are some reasons that an intensive may not be your right next step:
1. You are looking for an expert to help you decide if you should stay or go (there is no expert but YOU on this one)
2. You have recently discovered your partner's infidelity and need to process the pain and grief of it all
3. You have not done therapy before
4. You have a medical condition or concern that needs primary focus at this time
5. You are unable to abstain from substances for 30 days prior to your intensive and during your intensive
INTENSIVE THERAPY IS INTENSE.
This program is specifically designed for individual women in a more advanced stage of healing from trauma and betrayal. An important ingredient for a successful intensive is the mental agility that allows you to address several distressing topics at once and this requires that some insights and healing gains have already been established in previous therapy. Intensive clients are encouraged to continue individual therapy support with their own therapist once they return home. It's common for intensive clients to return home feeling rejuvenated only to encounter regular life around them has not updated to the transformation they have experienced. This is normal but it's tough - and you need to have support from your therapist or coach to keep building into your healing process. After your intensive, I will coordinate care with your therapist or coach to support you your transition back home.
You can heal regardless of what happens to your relationship.
It is an honor to walk alongside women as they reclaim their essence after betrayal. If you are interested in a 3-Day Complex Partner Trauma Intensive, complete the application and I will be in touch - I look forward to connecting with you.
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Client Testimonials
“The entire intensive was the best thing I have ever done. Throughout my marriage I tried to think of what I/we could do to improve the situation, and how I could actually stay married and raise a healthy family. The intensive empowered me, gave me things to think about that I had never considered, and lifted a heaviness in my heart.” - CPT Intensive Client
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"It was a very powerful, positive experience that left me feeling very hopeful. I truly enjoyed every moment of the intensive and feel very hopeful about my future." - CPT Intensive Client
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"Life changing; liberating. Hope, I appreciate you so much." - CPT Intensive Client
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"It was really amazing. I left there feeling not alone anymore, and very confident about going forward in my healing journey." - CPT Intensive Client
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"It was extremely healing. It was like an infected wound was reopened and cleaned out so that it could re-heal properly. It's painful in the moment but the slow healthy healing afterwards makes it worthwhile. Reflecting back over the time since the intensive I can see a positive difference in myself. I still use what I learned during that time multiple times a week. The visual aid is still so important to me. In fact, I am excited to revisit my three month plan in the coming week or two and create an even brighter future for myself as well as reflect on the growth that I have experienced during this time of healing. Thank you so much for changing the trajectory of my life!" - CPT Intensive Client
“I just want to thank you for the peace you have given me.” - CPT Intensive Client
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"By immersing myself in this issue there was no way to make excuses to come back to the problem later. I felt I was with a bright, capable therapist. And most important, I left with resolve and a plan. For me, it was just what I needed." - CPT Intensive Client
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"It was all incredibly helpful and encouraging. Creating my resiliency template and identifying the behaviors that were helpful or a hinderance to healing was a great exercise. It allowed me to put together a clear action plan for healing." - CPT Intensive Client
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"In one word, it was healing. Hope was supportive, encouraging and directed me appropriately. I’ve felt so incredibly worthless and needed to be reminded that I am precious." - CPT Intensive Client
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"It was so rich and literally life changing. Hope delivered. Your wisdom, compassion and the reality that I am not broken and how you zoned in on my deep pain and then showed me how I can show up in the world differently was profound. [As a therapist] I am blown away by this model." - CPT Intensive Client
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"It created space for me to put everything else aside & focus on the betrayal trauma. It gave me good prompts for thought—the conversations & the homework. It felt like a lot of concentrated time with a wise friend being a compassionate sounding board & asking questions. I appreciated how you didn’t talk at me or preach to me but also tried to keep us on track within your curriculum. I felt heard/understood & allowed to speak freely but you also kept us going in a particular direction. That takes skill!" - CPT Intensive Client
Meet Hope Ray
Hope Ray is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) and a Certified Hope and Freedom Practitioner (CHFP). Hope is the creator of Complex Partner Trauma Magazine for women and the Getting D.I.R.E. Straight rehabilitation program for men. In 2023, she founded the Betrayal Violence Institute, an organization that informs and educates interdisciplinary professionals about the power and control dynamics that often coincide with secret infidelity.
